Making Holiday Memories

THANKSGIVINGWe often we look forward to the holidays only to become overwhelmed, stressed out, and ultimately lose our joy. Here is a few ideas to stay in the spirit of the season to make holiday memories and enjoy yourself.

First, ask yourself and your immediate family, How would you enjoy a holiday celebration? This question helps decide what is most important for everyone, and lets you know if you have been stressing over false guilt and fear of disappointing. Discuss with all family members exactly what is important to whom since often when we ask the how question, the things we thought were important are really not.

Then start looking at your schedule. Can you really do all you want while keeping your sanity? Jotting notes on your calendar gives you a sense of control over your time no matter what happens. Plan for things like decorating, cooking, shopping, gift wrapping, plus commuting in between.

Dealing with stress during the holidays means having to compromise and avoid perfectionism. If one store does not carry the exact party supplies you had in mind, think of the commuting hassles of going from store to store in holiday traffic. Turning this around and making holiday memories happiness top priority means having a budget and sticking to it, paying cash to avoid credit card remorse. How about choosing recipes you can prepare a day or two ahead?

But if you really want a memorable Christmas focus on relationships, kindness, and service. Make an extra effort to include the elderly and disabled and yes, even the black sheep in the family who feels alienated. Let them know how much they have all contributed to your life.